Here I am with a 2-year-old and 9 week old twins, and I am wondering where the time has gone. Thinking back on how our lives have changed over the last year, I realized that having my first child was great. Nonetheless, it was like the honeymoon of motherhood. That is to say that motherhood is really a completely different experience once you have more than one child.
Some of the things I don't get to do anymore . . .
- Nap when the babies nap. However, there is the rare occasion when they ALL sleep, and I thank God for those moments.
- Eat breakfast before 10 a.m. There are days when I am up between 4 and 6 a.m., and I just go ahead and eat simply because I know I might not have the opportunity again until noon.
- Go out anywhere with just me and the kids. How exactly do you carry 2 infants and still supervise your 2-year-old in any type of store? Yeah, that's what I'm still trying to figure out.
- Stay out anywhere past 10 p.m., and THAT's pushing it. James and I have done that once to celebrate his birthday, but I don't think my mom is going to fall for that one again anytime soon.
- Drive a car smaller than a mini-van.
- Feel caught up on my chores.
- Change less than 10 diapers a day. It's time to potty train JJ.
I could go on, but I won't because I take far more joy in the whole new set of things that I DO get to do now.
- I get to sleep with my kids. There is nothing more peaceful in life than sleeping with your children.
- I get to help shape three little lives.
- See how much JJ loves "my babies", as he calls them. I love to hear JJ walk out of his bedroom to come wake me up and ask to see his babies every morning.
- Gain a renewed sense of appreciation for all parents. No matter what your approach may be, it's not easy, but it's extremely rewarding.
- I have 3 great excuses for not getting everything done. I hate to have a huge list of to-do's, but I would hate far more to look back and wish I had spent more time with my kids.
- Learn something new from or about my children every day. Each day there is something new with children, as anyone who is a parent will tell you.
- I get to be "Mom". There's something really comforting about feeling needed.
I suppose what I am getting at is that life is harder now in many ways, but I would not trade it for simpler days. Simplicity has it merits, but when it comes to family life, I prefer it be complicated and crazy, but full.